It’s almost 4 in the morning and I’m finding it hard to sleep because I am angry.
Tonight I was out with a group of people. A mixture of friends and aquaintences. Leaving the bar, we passed by another group of people. As we moved passed them, a women called out after us, “Don’t fucking touch me!”
Most of the group I was with was taken aback. They replied with
“No one fucking touched you.”
“No one would want to.”
“You’re gross.”
And, of course
“Slut!”
At this point, whether the girl had been touched or not, I was embarrassed by some of my “friends” remarks.
But then, to make things worse, as distance grew between us and the woman, one of the guys in our group said
“I totally touched her butt. It was jiggly.”
Which, to my horror, received only uproarious laughter from the group.

Women are not objects. They are not there to be “jiggled,” proded, or fondled by random men for their enjoyment.
The fact that the people I was with laughed the incident off not only infuriated me, but also validated the guy who did it.
This is dangerous. It sent the message to him, and everyone we were with that touching women without their consent is okay, funny even.
This is an entitlement issue. It’s a harassment issue. This is the shit women put up with on a day-to-day basis.
This woman was sexually harassed and then berated for it…called a slut!
This is unacceptable.
And yet, I did nothing. I was paralyzed with anger. I wanted to cry…
Wanted to run back to the girl and apologize. Tell her she had every right to yell, to defend herself and her body.
Tell her that I’m sorry there were people like this…and that I was ashamed to be associated with one.

So I’m angry about a lot of things tonight.. the actions of others, but mostly the lack of action on my part.

I should have spoken up. Instead I let my silence validate the actions of the man in my group of friends. I am angry, sad, and embarrassed.

And I have learned a lesson tonight. I only wish I had been stronger and braver and said something…so that maybe this man could have learned something too.

maarnayeri:

White teens who kill receive kind words and humanizing obituary-esque headlines surrounding their crimes, whereas black teens who are killed are covertly demonized or belittled and no worth is attached to the stories covering their death.
This is the world we live in.
"Water does not resist. Water flows. When you plunge your hand into it, all you feel is a caress. Water is not a solid wall, it will not stop you. But water always goes where it wants to go, and nothing in the end can stand against it. Water is patient. Dripping water wears away a stone. Remember that, my child. Remember you are half water. If you can’t go through an obstacle, go around it. Water does."
Margaret Atwood, The Penelopiad (via fables-of-the-reconstruction)

zulnutt:

I end all of my yoga sessions with the prayer gesture from FFX

Women are sharing their comebacks to instances of everyday sexism

veganpoopxvx:

dingdongno:

and it’s amazing

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but wait there’s moreimage

omg and then image

from (x)

Yes

primacdonaldsgirl:

"um yeah you’ve told us that before"

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nevvzealand:

what do u say to ur sister if she is crying????? are you having a CRISIS

heyhocloudy:

smashalash:


JESUS FUCKING CHRIST WHY DID I NOT KNOW ABOUT THIS CAT BEFORE
HER NAME IS TAMAAND SHE’S THE STATIONMASTER AT A TRAIN STATION IN JAPANSHE GREETS ALL THE PASSENGERSAND SHE HAS HER OWN OFFICEAND SHE’S PAID IN CAT FOODAND SHE IS A FUCKING EXECUTIVE OF A FUCKING RAILROAD STATION 
AND LOOK AT HER

the trains are decorated with cartoon versions of her since she’s their mascot as well


MAN YOU GOTTA TALK ABOUT THE TRAIN MORE TOO THOUGH!!
FOR ONE THERES A LITTLE LIBRARY INSIDE WITH CHILDREN’S BOOKS!!

AND TAMA THEMED COUCHES AND BACKBOARDS!!!



AND THE FRONT HAS WHISKERS!!!
TAMA IS SO POPULAR THAT TOURISM FROM TAMA BASICALLY BROUGHT THE ENTIRE TOWN BACK FROM THE BRINK AND SAVED THE RAIL LINE!!!
I MEAN CHECK THIS OUT!!

A TAMA CAFE!! AN ENTIRE TAMA GIFTSHOP!! TAMA NOTEBOOKS TAMA BAGS TAMA EARRINGS MORE TAMA STUFF I NEVER GOT PICTURES OF!! THERE IS SO MUCH TAMA !! THIS GODDAMN CAT!!

im sure ive reblogged this before but this cat makes me so happy
0ce4n-g0d:

Full Moon on the Beach by Sean Allen
413
"We do not escape into philosophy, psychology, and art—we go there to restore our shattered selves into whole ones."
Anaïs Nin, In Favor of the Sensitive Man and Other Essays  (via thatkindofwoman)
20aliens:

Nan Goldin
490